WORD OF WISDOM
A father’s influence goes to the fourth generation after him. Whitney Houston’s parents Emily (Cissy) and John Houston divorced when she was at kindergarten. Together with lover, Bobby Brown, Whitney smoked crack in the presence of their 5 year old daughter, Bobbi Kristina. At 22, Bobbi died of drug abuse…her mother Whitney died at 48 on similar grounds. Great careers and more importantly, great lives lost due to weak fatherhood.
💡While there is
little you can do about your ancestors, there is something that you can
do about your descendants. One thing that prevents a man from being a
good father is that he hasn’t completed being a boy. To be in your
children’s’ memory tomorrow, you have to be in their lives’ today.
Having children doesn’t make you a father. Raising them does. 💡There
are many of us who were raised up in unstable families but we don’t
have to pass it on to our children. We don’t have to fight in the
presence of our children. We can choose to shield their emotions from
our disputes as adults. To a large extent, you are a product of your
early relationships.💡Unstable
parents create insecure children. Stable parents raise stable children.
Children need affection (hugs, kisses), attention (listening) and
affirmation (positive words), every day. When a man loves his wife, it
creates security and stability. The best gift a father can give his
children is to love their mother. Children learn how to handle feelings,
loses, failure and conflicts at home. 💡Regrettably,
parenting can neither be delegated nor suspended for a while as we work
for the ring of fame and fortune. The growth of children is
irreversible. Like a young tree, it takes the bends directed by the
gardener, so is the life of a child. You can’t shape it in adulthood;
you can’t pick it from where you left after you reach at the top in your
career pursuits. It’s always easier to model young boys than to
rehabilitate grown up men. 💡If
you invest in your child, you don’t have to invest for your child.
Children require presence not presents. No amount of gifts and meeting
financial obligations can replace your personal presence. Any written
will can be torn in a few years after the demise of the writer of the
will. The only sure inheritance that you can leave behind is the
investment you make in your child not for your child. Bless a family by sharing this word. Sharing is caring!
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